Hi Honey I’m home – Sitting sober on cloud nine is back in the building!!

Where do I start, its been a while since my last blog, convincing myself that I do not have a drinking problem because I don’t drink everyday and because there are so many people out there that drink way more than I do.

Well the fact is I do have a drinking problem. My problem is that I know drinking makes me feel like crap, it makes me tired, stressed and agitated and yet I still do it!! WHY?????

I use the excuse that it helps me to relax, but I know that’s bullshit!!! It’s the wine that is making me stressed in the first place, not to mention making me fat and lazy to boot.

No matter how many times I say “I’m going to stop drinking once and for all” I always seem to end up back in the same place….me sat on my sofa, drinking red wine. It never used to be more than a bottle, but more recently that one bottle has turned into two. which is really scary!!!!

As I sat heavily in my hangover yesterday, unable to do all the things I had intended to do, I knew that something has to change. So I am back here in blog writing mode starting my journey to sitting sober on cloud nine once more, hoping that this time will be the last time I have to start over.

My plan is to go back to the gym and start working out again. I’m going to make sure I am treating my body with the respect that it deserves because when I eat the right food, exercise and mediate, I feel amazing…my body needs this!! I need this!!!

To help me stay on track I am going to get back to writing regular blogs about how great life is when you are Sitting SOBER on Cloud Nine.

See you soon L xxx

Post Holiday Motivation

So today is Tuesday 20 August 2019, day one of my ‘Miracle Morning 30 Day Life Transformation Challenge (I will explain more about that shortly, first I need to tell you about my holiday).

So in the weeks running up to my holiday, I struggled to find the motivation to lead a healthy life style, by that I mean refraining from drinking alcohol for more than 5 days at a time, eating healthy food and doing some form of exercise, other than exercising my mouth.

I had a serious case of ‘Putting it off until tomorrow syndrome’ Unfortunately tomorrow was actually 5 or 6 weeks away. Thankfully, I am now back from holiday and my motivation to live a happy, healthy life style is through the roof!!!!

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had an amazing holiday!!! However, I am pretty sure my holiday would still have been amazing without my daily diet of croissants for breakfast, bread and cheese for lunch, chocolate waffles as an afternoon snack followed by dinner. All washed down with red wine and cold beer.

Lets talk about a Miracle Morning (my post holiday motivation). Like many, I love to read when I am on holiday and my book of choice this year was the Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. Its about 6 habits that will transform your life before 8am. In the opening page it had a success story from a women who had been doing the miracle morning for 79 days and as a result has lost 29lbs. (79 days?? That is just over 2 months) . From the moment I read this I was hooked. I want to lose 29lbs and would be overjoyed if I achieved that in the next 3 months.

So what is this Miracle Morning and what do I have to do??????

Basically you get up a little earlier in the morning and commit to some personal development. No one would argue that personal development is not good for you.

The 6 habits are called SAVERS

S is for SILENCE – Either sitting in silence or meditating. (I’m going to go with meditation).

A is for Affirmations – This is not something I have done before so I checked out affirmations on google about healthy living.

V is for Visualisations – This is an easy one for me, I love my vision boards.

E is for Exercise – I chose to go for a run (that’s my thing, but any exercise is good)

R is for reading – Reading something that will inspire you or teach you something new. I am reading the Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I love this book, it always puts me in a really positive mindset and that is sooo what I need right now)

S is for scribing – AKA writing. This could be writing in a journal, writing a gratitude list or even writing a book, if that is something you want to do. I am going to commit to writing my blog for the next 30 days.

The beauty of the miracle morning is you can do each one for a long or as little time as you want. Even if you only do each practice for one minute a day, that it 6 minutes of personal development you didn’t do yesterday!!! This personal development will then lead you to achieve your goals. Mine being to live a healthier, happier lifestyle and drop 29lbs in the process.

So this is how my morning has looked so far on day one of my Miracle Morning Life Transformation Challenge:

I woke up at 6am, I jumped out of bed as soon as my alarm went off and went straight to the bathroom. I drank a large glass of water and brushed my teeth. (this was to make sure I didn’t go back to bed).

I then went down stairs (away from my bed!!) and did a 10 minute, guided, morning meditation that I found through google. After that I read the Secret for 15 minutes, which reminded me that like attracts like. What does that mean??

Positive thoughts attract positive actions, whereas Negative thoughts attract negative actions!!! I want to live a happy, healthy life…so it will positive thoughts from me from now on.

Next up was Affirmations. I have never done this before and being completely honest I felt really silly talking to myself in the mirror for 5 minutes. However, I went with it and really tried to feel what I was saying. My Affirmation of choice today was:

I am grateful for my healthy body, I love my life and I love myself” I’m not particularly happy with the way my body looks right now, but I am genuinely happy about my health and all that my body can do!! (Remember focus on the positive).

After my affirmations, I moved onto visualisations, I love visualising, it is day dreaming for grown ups. I visualised, getting to my goal weight and how it would feel going and buying myself a new pair of Levis jeans.

Exercising and Scribing (writing) are probably my favourite. I went for a run (6km) and now I am sitting here writing my blog. You only have to look at my recent posts to see I haven’t really been up for blog writing recently. But here I am, back and focused and feeling alive. I love writing my blog, it brings me joy, especially when I get feedback from people saying I have inspired them in someway.

So over the next 30 days I am going to commit to doing my SAVERS everyday including writing my blog. Watch this space for my progress.

I Blame Carrie Bradshaw

So alcohol is an addictive drug that is responsible for killing almost 8000 people a year in the UK alone, but yet people still drink alcohol and don’t see it as a problem. In fact, I am viewed as being weird and boring because I choose not to drink this addictive drug.

What is that all about?

So I have to ask the question; Why do so many people still drink alcohol and what made me start drinking?

I started drinking because of peer pressure, all my friends were doing it and it just seemed to be the normal thing to do. Why I carried on drinking? Well for that I blame Carrie Bradshaw!!

Carrie Bradshaw and her Sex and the City pals were the kind of women I wanted to be. Stylish, Intelligent, Successful, Confident women. I would watch in admiration as they went out to lunch and dinner in their posh restaurants ordering their posh cocktails in the coolest city in the world, New York.

When I eventually got to New York myself, it will come as no surprise to hear that the first words out of my mouth were…….

“I’ll have a Cosmopolitan please”.

Let me tell you how un-stylish, un-intelligent and un-successful I was when I drank cosmopolitans in New York.

It was January 2007, I had gone to New York to visit my parents who were living there at the time. My Aunty and Cousin were also visiting, so we decided to make a girly weekend of it. A bit of shopping, a Broadway Show and of course a little bit of sight-seeing. I managed to get us an amazing deal staying in the W Hotel and we all had things we wanted to do. My cousin wanted to see the Empire State Building and the Statue of Liberty, My Aunty wanted to go on a horse and carriage around Central Park and I wanted to see Wicked on Broadway.

My Aunty had just been on holiday to China and it seemed that nothing New York had to offer was anywhere near as good as China and I was getting sick of hearing about China, it was really getting on my wick.

We went to see Wicked, which I found amazing, but my Aunty did not “What a load of noisy codswallop that was” she said “When I was in China I saw……….” AHHHHHHHHH. I was furious.

To cheer me up and take my mind off it, my cousin and I made our way down to the hotel bar which was buzzing. Our English accents got a lot of attention and a lot of free drinks. I have no idea how many cosmopolitans we drank, but it is safe to say we were both absolutely smashed, how we were not arrested I will never know.

On returning to our room, my cousin threw up and I proceeded to start telling my Mum exactly what I thought of my Aunty. “She’s nothing but an old hag, she has ruined this holiday with her China this China that. who bloody cares about China and who the bloody hell wants to go on a smelly horse. I bloody don’t”.

Although I was in the bathroom when I was telling my Mum exactly what I thought of my Aunty, the bathroom did not have walls, it had plastic partitions, so my Aunty heard every single word I had to say. How embarrassed was I the next day when I finally got my backside out of bed.

Its not just Sex in the City though, all TV programs seem to be created around booze. British soaps for example, EastEnders, the cast spend most of their time in the ‘Queen Vic’. Coronation Street, the cast spend most of their time in the ‘Rovers Return’. In Emmerdale its ‘The Wolfpack’, in Hollyoaks it ‘The Dog’

Before starting my current career as a Careers Adviser, I was a Police Investigator, I can’t think of a single crime drama where the lead investigator doesn’t go home and immediately pour themselves a drink. Marcella with her bottle of beer, Vera with her whiskey, DCI Cassey Stewart from unforgotten and her large glass of wine. Last night I was watching Line of Duty and Superintendent Hastings congratulates his team for cracking the case by putting money behind the bar.

If all we ever see when we watch the TV is people drinking is it any wonder that no ones sees drinking alcohol as a problem.